Virgo….
Virgo pulled up in his truck and called my cell phone to let me know that he was outside. I went out. Keep in mind that he did not even come to the porch to ring the doorbell. We stood outside and talked and joked for about 20 minutes. I must admit that it did feel good to be in his presence even though he was forbidden fruit to me. We laughed and enjoyed each others company and all of a sudden it happened. His wife drives down my street past my house. I started to say to myself…"I am not going through this high school bullshit". Virgo waved at her. I told him that he should not do that. She backed down the street and stopped. They were talking. I said a brief prayer because I saw my sixteen year old daughter and her friend looking out of the window. I don’t know what he said to her but she began to pull off…….then all of a sudden she put the car in reverse and started backing up full speed trying to hit him. In my mind I was saying "his dick must be really good to her or this bitch is just flat out crazy". In a sense I felt bad for her, but contrary to what she believed the visit was innocent. Anyhow, she ended up hitting the curb. She put the car in park and popped the trunk and pulled out a metal bat. At that point I understood the old cliche’ "There is a thin line between love and hate". She screamed saying shit like "You said you weren’t coming back over here" blah, blah, blah. He was talking calmly to her. Most men would have lost it. (I have witnessed it). After she calmed down and agreed to get in the car to go home, he told me that he had to go which was good because I was in the process of telling him that he had to leave. At that moment I learned a very important life lesson: Don’t ever expose your insecuities…people willl exploit them and have you feeling and looking like an ass. I could have easily made the situation benefit me but I didn’t. I love Virgo enough to let him go. I hope that he straightens everything out in his world. I also pray that his wife finds some self esteem and love for herself. All in all I hope that everything goes well for the two of them. This situation is part of the reason that I love the song playing. The words have sentimental meaning to me.
OMG! WOW! A lot has gone on huh? Email me please!
Comment by Choas — July 5, 2006 @ 6:16 pm
Yes! Much has occurred. I have learned many lessons from this experience. I just hope that the other parties involved find the lessons that they are to learn as well. At any rate, this situation is old. I don’t hold any grudges. I will always love Virgo…Shit we have history. He was actually the first guy that I had true feelings for. He was an asshole then and sometimes and asshole now. But there was something then and something now that I love about him. Deep down being an asshole covers the loving compassionate side of who he really is. I guess I have learned even through our friendship that his emotional and mental needs have not changed too much from 12 years back. So I say all of that to say that if he needs me I’ll always be here, it doesn’t matter the time, place, or situation. I won’t disrespect his marriage…in fact I refuse to. I am stuck between a rock and a hard place as well. Just hope he picks up his lesson in this. As for the wife, I hope she finds peace….Peace to understand that temper tantrums only make situations worse and perception means a lot.
Jade
Comment by Jade — July 5, 2006 @ 7:30 pm
Um…you didn’t tell me all of that happened!!
Comment by Beloved — July 5, 2006 @ 8:48 pm
Interesting!!!! There’s nothing like a woman scorned. At least it was a bat and not a damn gun. If she’s reading this then I know she’s probably regretting her actions on that day. Sometimes we lose it, only for it NOT to benefit us. Interesting………..
Comment by Unadulterated — July 6, 2006 @ 5:48 pm
Yeah, I feel sorry for her. She has her hands full with him. He is a piece of work. In a round about way I understand why her ass tried to run him the fuck over. After this I refuse to cast my pearls before the swine” (and that came from the word). I hope she shakes it off because people don’t change they become more of what they already are…unless they change their mentality and shit! that is work. Work that some people are not willing to put in.
Jade
Comment by Jade — July 6, 2006 @ 6:53 pm
Not so sure that any visit between you and someone that you have significant feelings for could be called “innocent.” Granted, she’s clearly a bit unhninged, but in that circumstance even though no relations were going on I’m not sure it’s on the level to be rappin’ like that.
In general, as long as both people really do respect their ex-person’s relationships I think hanging or having some convos is fine, but each situation is different. I haven’t been by your site in awhile, been pretty occupied until late last week. Glad to see you are still at it.
Comment by o — July 11, 2006 @ 8:19 am