A Scandalous Ass Mess
About a year ago one of my students came to live with me. It started off as an agreement that she would only be here with me for about two weeks. Well of course you know two weeks turned into two months and two months has now turned into eighteen months. I have excepted the fact that she will be with me permentantly. That is not problem. The problem is her trifling ass mother. This bitch is dead ass wrong. She takes being a low life to another level. Now mind you, the whole time my student daughter has been with me her mother has not offered a dime of any type to help and she was getting food stamps. She has even gone so far as to say that she had not talked to the father since my student daughter was two years old. She of course lied.
During the school year I had to go to DFACS and fill out papers for my student daughter to get Medicaid and TANAF (and boy was that an experience). Just to interject….. the shit on the walls in there is so degrading. NEWAY, as I went in to talk to the caseworker, I was informed that my student daughter was not eligible for any services because her mother had just renewed her food stamps in another county in Georgia. She lied and said she had custody of all of her kids. SHIT!!! I was in a bind. I could not add her to my insurance because it was not open enrollment. so what did I do? I did what any black woman would do. I fought (not physically). By the grace of God that issue was resolved. They awarded her services. It was so funny I often found myself trying to figure out why her TANF money was slowly decreasing. She started off getting $155 and as of recent she receives $67.
I had been getting papers from the child support office to fill out on her mom. I never filled them out. That was something that I always put off until one day my student daughter went to her grandmother’s house and found out that her father was paying child support for her to her mom. Well, I found the papers that were mailed and called the child support office to see what was going on. The good thing is that my student daughter had sense enough to get the case number. She was angry and so was I. On last Monday I went and visited the child support office and found that the mother still had herself listed as the custodial parent even though she signed over gaurdianship to me and relinquished all of her parental rights….Now the lies are on the table….I can’t imagine how my student daughter felt when I told her that her father pays child support and her mother has been getting a $597 check per month…not to mention that she had been getting it since she turned 2 years old.
The entire situation is a fucked up scandoulous ass mess. How can you put your wants and needs over those of your kids?
That is crazy! What is wrong with people today? You, of course, were doing the right thing and you are a blessing to take that young lady in. I know that she will be something greater than a conartist since she has you to guide her and not her egg donor.
Comment by Choas — July 25, 2006 @ 5:30 pm
God has special blessings set aside for people like you!
Comment by Diva (in Demand) — July 25, 2006 @ 9:49 pm
First why an i bloging from my phone. Second you know where that one was going. Third when i considered my student coming to live w me her mom was just as selfish. Damn shame.
Comment by Beloved — July 25, 2006 @ 10:07 pm
I meant money in my second point not one. By the way who took my second picture of her and lil jade. I couldn find it when ya ll left
Comment by Beloved — July 25, 2006 @ 10:11 pm
I think I took it, but I don’t remember. I’ll give you another one if I see you tonight or Sunday at the salon.
Jade
Comment by Jade — July 26, 2006 @ 12:04 am
You do are such a good thing for your daughter. You are teaching her how to work within the system and fight for what’s hers. Important lessons. Good luck!
Comment by MizJJ — July 26, 2006 @ 5:59 pm
There are several answers to your question, here are a few: crack, meth, psychopath,Munchausen…
Kudo’s for stepping up
Comment by ManNMotion — July 28, 2006 @ 5:07 am
You know it truly amazing me that some so called parents can stoop to the levels they do just for money. That she relinquished her rights for her daughter to live a better life elsewhere would be commendable, but to not provide for her, and to take what is rightfully hers and blow it on whatever is downright disgusting. I commend you for doing all you do for your daughter; she has a great mother in you.
Comment by Quest4Love — August 2, 2006 @ 7:31 pm